Are you the kind of parent who always wants the best for your child? Do you still plan birthday treats with glee and help out whenever you can, however grown up they might be?
Then you’ll want to protect your child from the emotional turmoil of your death. It will be a sad time, full of memories of the past and fear for the future. But there is one big thing you can do to help – you can let them know what you think, what you love and cherish, how you want to be remembered.
In short, you can let them know your Will and Wishes.
My Kitchen Table Workshop is a relaxed setting where you can find out how to make life easier for your children.
I call it Kiss and Tell because:
- you’re helping those you love the best, who get a proper Kiss, usually your partner and family
- and the best way you can help them is to Tell them what you want.
We’ll sit around the table with hot drinks and cake (because they always make things better) and talk through the biggest issues:
- Where to find information and examples which will help you figure it all out
- The practical side of planning a future event
- A checklist to help with the choices you can make now
- Guidance to ensure your family know your wishes
- Tips on where to keep your thoughts and plans
- Lasting Powers of Attorney or LPAs, the legal help your family can use to ensure your wishes are carried out if you are unwell
- Writing a Will, basic legal principles and when you should do it
Why should you take this workshop?
You’re grown up enough to have experienced the death of others, probably your parents, and know first hand the blow it deals to your body and mind. A death leaves the family emotionally drained, physically exhausted from stress and the sheer pressure of travelling, visiting, organising, soothing… in fact the very last thing you feel capable of at that precise time is organising a reunion of family and friends to acknowledge the death.
But that’s what is expected.
Would you plan a wedding at short notice and when you are miserable? Would you feel able to choose details that would make it feel personal and enriching, and respectful of the importance of the occasion? Of course not.
So why make your children take on the huge task of organising a funeral that you would be proud of at the precise time they are knocked sideways by your death?
By planning now, looking at the choices and making your own decisions, you can relieve your family of the stress of organising. You can’t fix their grief, but you can ease them get through it with practical help and guidance.
Think of it as Death Insurance
You have insurance against all kinds of things in life. Insurance that will help you if you house catches fire, your car gets bumped or your belongings are stolen. None of these things might happen, but you are prepared to invest some time and money into protecting yourself against that possibility.
Well, here’s something that actually IS going to happen. Life is lovely but it will definitely end. Maybe not tomorrow, maybe not for many years, but you know that one day you will have to say goodbye.
So think of funeral planning like an insurance that you KNOW will be used. Your time and effort will help your family know what you would have wanted, sparing them the anguish of digging through to find crucial details. What a precious final gift.
Contact me for more details of my Kiss and Tell workshops – I’d love to help you get this sorted.