There is nothing like the taste of a cake made to your favourite recipe to bring back fond memories. Or perhaps you are a chocoholic, always first in the line for profiteroles or dark chocolate cake?
A heartwarming soup, a hot curry to perk them up, maybe plates of cupcakes or bowls of your favourite fruit?
What about nibbles, are you a nut-cruncher, or do you prefer marmite snacks or trendy vegetable crisps? In the same way as wedding food sets the tone of the event, food served after a funeral will help set the mood, whether it be formal or relaxed, professional or charmingly amateur.
I think my ideal meal would be simple but delicious finger food made by someone local (we are lucky to have some great local caterers in the Test Valley villages), with tasty but cheap wine and bowls of chocolates to go with coffee.
No plastic plates or cutlery for me (Ikea is fine) and strictly no plastic mugs: if my guests can be served tea in someone’s vintage china with their fingers crooked and the chink of cup meeting saucer provides a backdrop to their friendly chatter I will be smiling down upon them.